Managing Low-Self Esteem at Work!
I am so excited to write about this topic because I am specifically interested in shaping those that cry themselves to bed into the “baddest” versions of themselves. “Cry themselves into bed” is just a figure of speech here, but essentially this article is targeting anyone that feels broken, tired, emotionally exhausted with the way things are going at work.
Let’s get into it.
Imagine you are no longer in the work environment that’s affecting you, let me wear my Dr. spectacles and ask you a few questions;
Are you still breathing?
Are you still qualified for similar roles?
Are you still the same person with the same talent and skills?
Ideally the answer to those questions should be “YES” - because whether you are working or not, you are still the same person. Sometimes we get it twisted and believe that the jobs hold our expertise and if we lose it, we would lose our expertise as well, which is not the case.
No one wants to lose their job in an unplanned manner, having said that, self-confidence is extremely important if you want to move from a point that is not working for you to one that does. People won’t hire you because they feel pity you are in a place that is hurting you, they want to be joined by happy, energised people who will bring all the good vibes and talent into their teams. It’s kind of tough to hear that, but it’s the truth. So how do we work on your happiness and good vibes?
Know Yourself: Who are you? What virtues do you hold dearly? Where are the people that are like you? That hold the same virtues as you? These are the people you need to approach for mentorship, coaching and career advice. Why do I say this?
Suppose a plant and a cow find themselves in a fire and there are only two routes out of it. One has carbon dioxide and the other has oxygen. In the heat of the moment, the cow might choose the carbon dioxide route and the plant the oxygen one - both would perish because even though both routes were an outlet, it wasn’t the right one for either. However if they both chose to take a moment and reflect on which route to take, their chances of survival would be better.
You see even though Simba found a happy place with Timon and Pumba, they never led him to who he really is. But when he met Rafiki, he was reminded who he was and he later on to be the King that he always was.
NOTE: This is not a process that might take a week or a month, it’s something that can take a year or 2 before you feel it settling in your heart, mind and soul. It’s of extreme importance to find people like you to remind you who really are. You will always be able to know them, even if you are struggling with yourself, that is the paradox of Life.
Accept Yourself: I genuinely don’t want to beat around the bush with this one. Don’t be caught up chasing people who haven’t accepted you. Accept Yourself. To be honest I would recommend being in an okay place with people that have accepted you as opposed to a seemingly better place with those that haven’t accepted you. It’s not healthy being in an environment where you are constantly second-guessing yourself because no one is making an effort to remind you that you are imperfectly perfect.
I for one have never been a fan of being fake at work. And after working for 5 years, I have no regrets. I have been true to myself, I have never brought anyone down, my conscience is clean and super proud of myself. I am the one that gets to live with me every single day so I need to enjoy the person I am at work, and I’m extremely proud of myself. So don’t change yourself in a negative manner to please others but yourself. Be you, and trust the process.
Love Yourself. I think the fact that a woman suffered the second most painful ordeal a human can experience is a reason to love yourself enormously. That said, loving yourself boosts self-confidence because you realise that you actually deserve more than what you are giving yourself, or what others are giving you.
Also, if you can’t love yourself, it becomes very hard to accept love. I used to wonder why I struggled to experience Love from my best friends and Family, and that’s because I was scared to Love Myself. Now I am like - “Of course they love me. I am such an amazing person, I know it, and I am not surprised why anyone would love me.”
Right now, I really enjoy mentorship, coaching because I am accepting the love from all round. It is easier to implement advice and grow from it faster because the love is internal and external.
In a nutshell, the advice is to reflect more on who are the different people around you that share in the same Life principles that you can trust with your well-being and development as a person and in your career. Learn to love yourself, reflect on what you need to do to feel like your self-love is increasing. Let go of people that make it hard for you to feel valued or appreciated, trust that you will find people that are so excited to find you because you remind them of themselves.
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I would like to end the blog with a big jump for my readers who are struggling with Low- Self Esteem. Miss Independent is Super Energetic for You, you will get out of it and you will be the baddest version of yourself very soon. I know it sucks, but you know what, change is the only permanent thing on this earth.
Your baddest version awaits you! You, BadAss!